What is Family?

Fam3Christmas is traditionally a time to be with family. April and I have great memories of times with our parents when we were children, and times with our own children when they were small. This year, we will all be having a bit of a reunion in Oklahoma, with all of our children, the in-laws and extended family.

As many of you know, the word “family” has been an elastic term in our household. First there were our biological blessings, Isaiah, Josiah and Alaina. And then God led us on an amazing journey to adopt Ruben and Abby. And then came LJ and Josh, our godsons who grew up across the street, and who we add to as many family gatherings as possible. This year has stretched our idea of “children” one more time, as we have become guardians for Anthony, Agustin and Gabriel.

“Guardianship” we have found is particularly difficult to navigate. It is this in-between stage that our society has never been able to clearly define. What do you do in a situation when children have biological parents, but those parents are not able to care for their children? Its difficult to have them call us “mom and dad”, yet these children have expressed the longing to have a “mom and dad”. We all don’t quite know what to call the current situation. Some of our other children struggle with thinking of them as “brothers”.  And what about the grandparents and extended family? We haven’t made it particularly easy on them.

As I look for answers, I have discovered that the scriptures are full of God redefining the word “family”. A few examples:

  • In Matthew 12:50, Jesus tells us that his own “brothers, sisters and mother” are not the biological ones, but rather “those who do the will of my Father in heaven.”
  • In Matthew 19 and Mark 10, the parable of the rich young ruler ends not with a statement so much about money, but a statement about family. “No one who has left home or brothers or sisters or mother or father or children or fields for me and the gospel will fail to receive a hundred times as much in this present age (homes, brothers, sisters, mothers, children and fields–and with them, persecutions)”.
  • Paul starts off his first letter to Timothy with “To Timothy, my true son in the faith.”

God Himself appears to be on a mission to continually add to His own family. John 1:12 and Ephesians 1:5 tell us that those who have received Jesus through faith become the adopted children of God. (Unfortunately, not everyone wants to be adopted.)

Christmas is not really about Jesus. It’s about God the Father starting a family, a family that he wants to include YOU in and many others in. Romans 8:29, “That [Jesus] might be the firstborn among many brothers and sisters.”  So, as you celebrate this Christmas, celebrate the birthday of Jesus, your older brother (or if he isn’t YOUR older brother, seriously consider changing that!), but also be like your Father, and open your arms bigger than you thought you could, and accept some new “family” into your home, into your goofy traditions, your Christmas meal time, your football game watching, etc., etc.  Look particularly to those whose families are broken (James 1:27).  I challenge you to search through the Bible and look for all the ways God calls us out on our sometimes selfish idea of what “family” is and post some of those on our blog or Facebook page. Our experience has been that children, all children, are a blessing from the Lord, however they get into the family.

Merry Christmas

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